Mhlawumbe wonke umnikazi wekati angazikhumbula izikhathi lapho isilwane sakhe sigxumela ethangeni lakhe kalula futhi ngokunembile. Ngemuva kwalokho, umngani onomsila uthatha indawo entofontofo kuye bese eqala ukucindezela ngesigqi ngezidladla zakhe. Ukuhamba kwesilwane kufana nokubhucungwa noma ukunyathelwa okujwayelekile.
Ekuqaleni, ingcindezi idlula ngesigqi esihamba kancane, kube sengathi isilwane sihlola isimo bese sizama ukukala isikhathi. Ngemuva kwesikhathi esithile, ukunyakaza kuthatha umlingiswa oqine ngokwengeziwe, futhi ngemuva kwesikhashana umnikazi usevele uzizwa kuwo wonke umphetho wezinzipho zezilwane zakhe, ezifana nezinaliti ezicijile, ezingena esikhunjeni. Kuyabikezelwa ukuthi ukubhucungwa kuphelela lapho, kubangele ukucasuka okukhulu, ngoba akubona bonke abantu abakulungele ukubekezelela lokhu. Ngaleso sikhathi, ikati lithunyelwa phansi ngaphansi kokumemeza okuthukuthele, okungcono, lisuswa ezandleni. Into ehlekisayo kulesi simo ukuthi ikati ngokwalo libonakala lithukuthele futhi limangazwa ngokweqile ngokukhohlisa okunjalo. Futhi umnikazi kufanele asuse izinwele zekati emadolweni akhe, ngenkathi ethola uketshezi oluthile ezingutsheni zakhe ezishiywe yizilwane.
Siyini isisekelo sendlela engaziwa "yokunyathelwa kwekati"?
Mhlawumbe, ngeke kube yimfihlo kunoma ngubani ukuthi amakati ahlala amakati kuze kube sezingeni lokuphila kwawo. Okokuqala, lokhu kuhlotshaniswa nezimo zempilo yabo, kwesinye isikhathi kufaniswa nokuthi "kwezulu", ngoba banethuba elimangalisayo nelingajwayelekile lokulala ngaphandle kwemingcele yesikhathi, ukungakhathazeki ngokuthi bazodlani. Esimweni esinjalo, umnikazi ubonakala endimeni yokuba ngumhlengikazi omanzi omama, anakekele, ahlinzekele ngendawo yokuhlala, ukudla nezokungcebeleka. Ngakho-ke, ngaso sonke isikhathi lapho umuntu ehleli kusofa, amakati ayanyathela. Kukholelwa ukuthi izilwane zibona izikhathi lapho ziphululwa njengokukhotha.
Imvamisa kwenzeka ukuthi ikati, ngaphandle kwesizathu, liqala ukunyathela ngenkuthalo endaweni eyodwa, sengathi limasha. Lesi simo sivela ebuntwaneni besilwane. Ngokucindezela ngenye indlela ngezidladla zayo, ikati lizala ukunyakaza okunesigqi. Kwesinye isikhathi kubukeka sengathi akalinganisi isikhathi, ukhuphula ijubane njalo. Kuyaqabukela kwenzeka ukuthi uvame ukumelana nokuhlukunyezwa lapho uzipho luxhunyiwe futhi ukunyakaza kuya kuba njalo. Izinzipho zinamathela ezingutsheni futhi zidala ubuhlungu obukhulu.
Kungani amakati enyathela ngezidladla zawo?
Abaningi, abanekati labahlengikazi ekhaya, baye babona kaningi ukuthi amazinyane adlisa kanjani, ancela ubisi. Ngalesi sikhathi, benza ukunyakaza okufanayo, becindezela amalambu esiswini sikamama. Ngakho-ke, amazinyane avusa ukugeleza kobisi. Sonke lesi senzo sivame ukuhambisana nokuhlanza okukhulu.
Lapho nje umnikazi eba nethuba lokuhlala kahle esihlalweni, ikati likubona lokhu njengesikhashana sokuphumula nokulungela ukuthatha isilwane salo sifake esifubeni. Ngenkathi yenza i-massage, ikati lizizwa livikeleke ngokuphelele. Futhi manje usevele uguqe ngamadolo, uconsisa amathe futhi uyahlanza, ngaleyo ndlela ekhombisa ukubonga nokwethembela kwakhe. Yingakho ikati limangala kakhulu lapho liqhutshwa, ngoba liveza nje imizwa yalo. Umuntu ucasula kakhulu isilwane lapho asixosha kuye ngezikhathi ezinjalo. Kusukela ebusheni besifazane, akekho noyedwa owashayela isilwane esimpofu.
Kwesinye isikhathi kuyenzeka ukuthi ikati liqala ukunyathela ngaphambi kokulala. Ukunyakaza ezimweni ezinjalo kwenzeka kumbuthano futhi kufana kakhulu nesidleke. Manje amakati alala kumatawoti afudumele nezingubo zokulala, kepha lokhu bekungenjalo ngaso sonke isikhathi, bebengahlali ekhaya njalo. Ngokuvamile kwakudingeka balale otshanini, izilwane okwakudingeka bazinyathele ukuze zithole ukunethezeka okukhulu.
Isiphetho esisodwa singenziwa, ukunyakaza okunjalo kwamakati kungokwemvelo.
